I help you identify, challenge, and change self-defeating and unhelpful thoughts and beliefs, develop productive behaviours, become more skilled at emotional management and reach your personal and professional goals. Whether you’re going through a life transition or are just plain stuck in an unhappy and negative mindset, this is your last stop!
Welcome to Coaching with Hilary!
I have lived through many of the same life struggles you are currently experiencing; my old story is likely not much different then your current one. My coaching philosophy is that our thoughts, beliefs and perceptions create our reality. The way we think, what we believe and how we perceive is what determines our emotional and behavioural reactions and ultimately, how we experience our lives. The first step to transforming is becoming aware of our thoughts!

"A man is but the product of this thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes." - Mahatma Gandhi
Do Any of These Statements Resonate with You?
- Your thoughts are constantly focused on negative things people say or how they treat you.
- Your co-parenting communication is emotionally stressful, draining and negatively impacts other relationships and areas of your life.
- You’ve gone through or are going through a life transition and are having difficulties seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.
- You often feel anxiety or worry when anticipating the future.
- You feel judged and defensive; often feeling you need to explain or defend yourself in certain relationships.
- You’re stuck in a negative mindset; frequently feeling annoyed, resentful, frustrated and fearful.
- Your mindset is impacting your happiness, peacefulness and clarity.
- You are often reactive and engage in negative behaviours.
- You have low self-esteem, self-worth and lack confidence.
- You are struggling with the aftermath of a relationship.
- You avoid, tolerate or sacrifice.
- You are a people pleaser and have a difficult time standing up for yourself and using your voice.
- You avoid having difficult conversations that must be had!
Transformational Mindset & Cognitive Behavioural Life Coaching
My Core Values
Integrity
Providing you with the highest level of confidentiality and trust.
Generosity
Being there for you when you need me.
Commitment
Fully committing to your personal and professional growth and development.
Passion
Unwavering support so you can live your best life every day.
Respect
Understanding your viewpoints and values, without judgment.
What My Clients Are Saying
For over 45 years I have viewed myself in a most negative light. It was always a struggle and I mostly landed in a place of defeat and poor self-esteem, sometimes self-hatred.
I was an actress to my parents, brothers, friends, colleagues, strangers. Bubbly and happy - which Is a genuine gear of mine but so often with such deep hurt, self-hatred and secrets below the surface. No one really knew.
I was a great comedian, often animated and great at self-deprecation. Never thinking that this only deepened myself loathing. Unaware of how I was hurting myself while getting fleeting joy from making people laugh.
You will never be called "the coach that helped me". YOU, Hilary, are the one who brought me to life. I never once felt you were just doing your job or that your questions or comments were canned or copied from a textbook. It felt so personalized and relevant.
I am ever grateful for all of It and you'll never be forgotten.
YOU gave ME back to myself. Does that make sense? That sweet young girl with hopes and dreams Is back. She's even smarter, sweeter and more beautiful than she ever was. And she knows It now…..