Did you know that the average person has between 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day? Did you also know that 80% of our thoughts are negative and 95% are repetitive?* If we repeat those negative thoughts, we think negative thoughts way more than we think positive thoughts and essentially we are living in the past.
Want to know something else? More than 90% of our thoughts are unconscious! This means that we have thousands of thoughts a day that we are not aware of, yet the crazy part is that these unconscious thoughts still impact and direct our emotions, behaviours and outcomes! Crazy right?
So how do we change our behaviours and outcomes if we aren’t aware of our thoughts? Step one is to consciously pay attention to what we are thinking. We usually sense an emotion before we realize the thought that instigated it. For instance, have you ever woken up in the morning and felt frustrated or angry yet nothing had actually happened to elicit these emotions? Guess how that happened? You guessed it, you had fleeting thought that you were not aware of which created an automatic negative emotional response within you. This happens to us each and every day. Think about the way you react to a circumstance or person that you perceive as negative – we usually don’t take a moment to analyze the situation or questions how we really feel about it/them, instead we react, automatically.
Moving forward, I want you to do an experiment. When you notice yourself feeling a negative emotion, (fear, sadness, anger, anxiety, frustration etc) before you ACT first identify what the emotion is then try to become conscious of what thought(s) you had just before that negative emotion reared it’s head. It’s the THOUGHT you had that created the negative emotion. When you can identify the thought, only then can you dig deeper and question the validity of the thought.
If you’re feeling stuck in pattern of negative thinking and find yourself behaving in a way that doesn’t jive with who you really are and how you really want to show up in this world, I invite you to reach out to me! Book a 30 minute complimentary call and get a taste of how I can help.